Unresolved heartbreak, bad experience can make a woman unmarried at 40 – Nkpubre Arit Edet

Popular dating coach and matchmaking expert, Nkpubre Arit Edet of LagosMatchmaker has stated that unresolved heartbreak can make a woman unmarried at 40.

The revered relationship coach said: “There are too many reasons why a woman would be unmarried at 40 and these reasons are the same for men. I don’t think it’s gender focused. A person could be unmarried at 40 because they simply don’t have marriage as part of their life plan. They had a bad experience in a relationship and haven’t healed yet. Also because they are widowed or divorced and not willing to give love another try.”



“Another reason may be they are too focused on work,” Nkpubre Arit Edet continued, “and have not really given themselves time to be social. They don’t go out and never meet anyone. They have a strict list on what their future spouse should have so dismiss others too soon. They are concerned with the type of spouse their family tells them to have so they feel like they don’t have a choice in choosing a spouse. They have bad qualities that could be a general turn off, are defensive and unwilling to change. They were focused on other aspects of life and didn’t dedicate thoughts to finding a spouse till 40.They are single ‘I am married to Jesus, Satan leave me alone’.”

Nkpubre Arit Edet also addressed women on the awkward circumstance of having to be the first to make their feeling known to a man they love.



Said she: “I think it’s nice to have the option to choose who I am interested in first and then see if they are interested in me too.”

She continued: “Yes, I would advise anyone interested in a person to let it be known to that individual. I don’t think there is a particular gender that reserves the right to express their interest.”


Bad qualities, Nkpubre Arit Edet opined, could be a general turn off and make it difficult for those prospecting for a relationship to find partners. Speaking further, she noted that her business has been able to thrive despite the prevailing security state of the nation, “My business has continued to thrive despite the prevalent insecurity challenges in Nigeria. It has surprisingly affected Lagos matchmaker positively because more people stay indoors, try to meet others and have a social life online. It has worked to our advantage”.


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